“I’m so exhausted, why can’t I fall asleep?”
“What if our partnership can’t survive this?”
“Why can’t I be like all the other parents?”
“What if we never have sex again?”
“This wasn’t supposed to feel like this. What if I’m going crazy?”
“What if I never get over them?”
“Will they ever feel like themselves again?”
Are these the questions that keep you up at night? You are not alone.
Anxiety or Depression but not pregnant or postpartum?
Although I have a passion for mental health around reproductive events, what I believe I excel at is in helping folks with mood or anxiety symptoms. I see all genders and folks without children, from 18-90 in my practice. If you’d like to see if we’re a good fit, don’t hesitate to text or call. (541) 337-4960.
Anxiety, Depression & Perinatal Mental Health Counseling via Telehealth:
“No one said it’d be easy but this is not what we expected!” If becoming pregnant, having a baby, or adopting has left you feeling constantly anxious, sleepless, irritable, angry, and tearful even when you think you “should” feel happy, you may be suffering from symptoms of pregnancy or postpartum depression without necessarily feeling “depressed”. In fact, these symptoms fall into a category called “Perinatal mood and anxiety disorders” meaning conception through the first year after birth, and can be far from what we think of as “Postpartum depression”. They also apply to adoptive parents including same sex couples, and are seen in much higher rates in transgender parents and people of color. (See my signs and symptoms tab for more info on different conditions) Rage, insomnia, constant worries, and even scary thoughts are common for around a quarter of all moms in the first year after adding a new baby to the family. Because most parents with perinatal mood and anxiety disorders are able to take great care of their children and will feel more anxious and irritable than sad, these serious conditions are easy to dismiss. However, the cost of not getting support is high for mom and the family. Symptoms of PTSD are present for an equal number of birthing people following childbirth and affect partners who witness the birth as well. Parents who don’t seek help early on may feel not like themselves for months or years. My approach is structured, solution-focused and individualized to help you feel better as quickly as possible. I have worked with hundreds of “postpartum couples” and have witnessed partnerships strengthened, energy restored, and the experience of parenting enjoyed once again, or perhaps for the first time over and over again. There is hope. You will feel like yourself again! My expertise in perinatal mental health also includes working with those facing traumatic birth, a NICU baby, bi-polar disorder, adoption, miscarriage, infant loss, and abortion. For an expert in infertility or third-party reproduction, please see the Utah Infertility Resource Center’s website.
When you try to talk to your partner do they always seem defensive, angry, or withdrawn? Does it seem the more you talk the further your partner pulls away? Do conflicts seem to escalate to yelling or one of you shutting down completely? Are you worried you may be in a toxic or abusive relationship? Are you recovering from a break-up and struggling?
How to communicate effectively in a way your partner can hear is rarely a skill we learn on our own. I can work with you to identify your fears and behaviors that keep you from getting what you really want in your relationship. I also help those unsure if they are in an addictive or abusive relationship to identity what’s “really going on”, find their voice, and discover new choices and ways of thinking about their situation. If your relationship has ended, I can help you find your internal compass and self-esteem once again. I come from a trauma-informed background and approach that also helps us identify how your pattern of attachment from childhood impacts your current relationships. I approach couples by working to get to the source of problems, not just communication skills.
I utilize the Gottman Method of couples counseling which is evidenced based, simple in approach, practical, and effective. I typically meet with you and your partner together, then each individually and after having you complete some online questionnaires, we meet again together to make a concrete plan for making the changes you desire.
When we can understand the fears behind the “attack, blame, withdraw” cycle so many of us find ourselves in, relationships can be transformed and old wounds can be healed. There is always hope for growth in a relationship when we explore our own feelings, needs, and behaviors and learn concrete tools for managing and communicating them. I’m honored to work with many couples who have reestablished their bond, improved their sex lives, and feel more connected and joyful in their partnership. I also am honored to provide a safe space to recover from the ending of a partnership and help you to move forward in a deeply committed relationship to yourself.
Abuse & Trauma recovery:
If you feel that a traumatic childhood history or incident has impacted your day to day life, I would love to work with you. I have a particular interest in toxic relationship and emotional abuse recovery as well as in working with survivors of sexual abuse, emotional incest, assault, and rape. I utilize a variety of body-based and energy psychology modalities which are evidenced based treatments that prevent re-traumatization and guide you back to safety in the body as soon as possible. Feel free to call to discuss.
Please leave me a message or text today and you’ll hear from me within 24 hours. All sessions are currently available via Telehealth only through Doxyme, Facetime, or phone call.
(541) 337-4960. I look forward to working with you!